I clearly remember being refused entry to a club with my best gay friend, and my trans friend being asked what she had "down there" while out. These experiences taught me the difference between a place where I was welcome, a place where I was merely tolerated, and a place where I faced discrimination. I wondered what queer safety really means and wanted to make it tangible and, above all, action-oriented.
For two years, I worked on answering this question: how can space holders help design queer safer spaces?
The Queer Library is a visual, participatory research method. I photographed over fifty queer individuals at a location of their choice and asked each the same five questions about why they chose that place, what makes a space safer for them, and what they wish cisgender/heterosexual people would understand. I never shared the questions in advance; I wanted spontaneous, unfiltered answers.
Participants came from more than twenty countries, aged between 19 and 79, photographing themselves in parks, cafés, community centers, and homes in Amsterdam, as well as Rotterdam, Utrecht, Berlin, and beyond. I also spoke with four queer experts: choreographer and somatic therapist Zahira Mous, artist/curator Jordi Ariza Gallego, kink organizer Ari Ochoa, and neuroarchitect Fiona Beenkens.
My conversations with both the participants of the Queer Library and the experts revealed three key insights.
Everyone experiences safety differently, shaped by age, ethnicity, migration background, neurodiversity, and more.
Emotional safety relates to what happens in your body as you enter a space: belonging, trust, being yourself without explanation. Spatial safety concerns what the environment communicates through signage, symbolism, layout, lighting, and sound. Both are inseparable, but by addressing them separately, you can design with more intention.
As Jordi said: "A safe place does not exist. What we try to do is create a safer place." That subtle difference, safe versus safer, is at the heart of the entire toolkit and my approach. It's not about guarantees, but a commitment to working toward safety every day.